1) Are you sick of following the rules of dating?
2) Have you felt like an abandoned puppy in the rain because you’re waking up alone without a boy to hold you?
3) Have you been made to feel ashamed of your ambition and tenacity?
4) Have you ever felt ashamed in your own skin because a man didn’t choose you?
5) Are you wondering why men don’t approach you?
6) Worry about never getting married or having babies?
7) Feel that people are talking about you negatively?
8) Are you exhausted from having the same conversation over and over about how your life isn’t up to a certain standard?
Did you answer yes to any of these?
If so, you’re the perfect candidate to join my cult movement.
I want to be clear - by reading my words you will not instantly be in a relationship with your potential husband who buys you Chanel and puppies every birthday. Nor will you miraculously drop 3 dress sizes and grow a foot taller. You will, however, have your mind flipped sideways and opened up to ways you can behave in society and brush off the pathetic shit that manifests into bigger issues.
Again, if you’re looking for a husband, please don’t think these practices will make that happen. This is about starting a healthy relationship with yourself and being powerful against the opposite sex. You’ll recognize bad situations faster and be able to apply methods to move on from them, not go backwards.
Everyone mourns at different speeds – and I’ll never preach that you wake up one morning and you’ve forgotten your ex exists (I haven’t sp
oken to my ex in 5 years and I still think about him occasionally). However, no-one will deny that you can feel better faster by moving on – with whomever that may be.
I WOULD ALSO LOVE TO GET MARRIED! Totally – I’ve got my wedding Pinterest board ready to go. However, I refuse to have marriage as my goal for this year/next year/the one after that! My goal is to be able to consistently lay my head to rest and feel proud of what I’ve achieved. To feel empowered by how I’ve behaved and to know that I’m desirable because I desire myself. To know my influence and how I have manufactured this life for myself.
I am tired of feeling like a little lamb waiting for my Bumble prince to recognize that part of me which no-one else has seen before. I’m sick of thinking there’s a man out there that would feel obliged to chase me to the airport and tell me not to get on the plane – even though I’ll be back in a week or so.
I have my own money, my own ambitions, my own education, my own body. I can speak clearly and I can solve my own problems. I have two legs and a heartbeat and can run from a situation that doesn’t suit my desires. Basically, you can’t tell me what to do.
The empathetic part of my body makes up 80% of my life and my decisions. Before making any decision in my life, I’ve weighed how it will affect everyone else around me and my relationships. Even starting this blog, I thought about whether my colleagues would read it and if it would be reflective of my performance some way……..
I have an opinion about modern-day dating and representation – and I want to explore it. I want to have other women weigh in and feed the monster.
Disclaimer: I’m not encouraging women to stay single forever, nor to adapt that idea into their 10-year plan. Although, I love the women who do - I want women to feel they dominate unapologetically in every aspect of their life. Home, motherhood, Saturday morning team sport, dating queen extraordinaire…
I’m exploring an attitude change. I reversed my constant Tinder swiping and seeking the one to dating several men and being devious, aloof, and playful – rather than investing empathy and emotions.
“Men are friends, not food.”
I said it. I’m coining it. You need food to live; you need friends to play with.
If this sounds like you, then come and join me.
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